The more you judge as "less than" the more you are stuck in a role. You can judge or discern what is appropriate or right for you on this part of your path. However in judging another person you create a false distance or space which says: "I am not like you. I am not you." When in fact this person is like you... is you as there is no other you. There is no separation. Whatever is in your sphere is an aspect of you.
The testing during this time is for more honest communication and genuine being. There is a call to release the roles that bind and the boxes that people cram themselves into. Just know that even though you might feel you are upsetting the "apple cart" or enticing the unknown in your relationship ultimately these relationships are opening you up to more genuine relating and therefore more fulfilled interaction.
The more you experience inner love the more you can be present in relationship with the "other".... What seems to be outer love is really a reflection of how you love yourself.
We are at a time where there is a Soul Call to move from tolerance of each other to honoring each other. This means that we must on a heart level and emotional level be able to meet people where they are and not where we want them to be. It is so honoring to witness the opening and vulnerability of another being. In good parenting/care-giver relationships the parents are able to honor and respect where their children are in their development and life.
For example a good parent will be okay with a child reading slower that they do; or preferring to draw instead of write their notes. Somewhere along the line as we move into adulthood all this understanding goes out the window. We are taught to not honor each other but to be with people that will help us "get the most out of our life". Many people are taught to align for status and not for love and common interests or mutual goals/projects. The New Emerging Consciousness is based on resonance and coherence; and therefore synergy.
Synergy is based on what is organic, cohesive and best for all concerned. There is a recognition that the people coming together are creating something 'more' than they could on their own. This more is always draws in that which is the most life enhanced.
The Soul wants to express and experience life through synergistic relationships. This will be for personal as well as professional relationships; in fact you will see more overlapping of the personal/colleague/business type relationships. There is a blurring of the public and the personal. This is best reflected in social media. The Soul Call is a message of authentic relating and living. This Soul Call is enabled through harmonic and harmonious interchanges. Harmony doesn't mean no dissonance and total agreement; however it does mean the experience of a majority of harmony. This way people in relationship can move into more creative expression and mutual creativity.
If you are having conflict in your relationships or feeling emotionally triggered it is best to take time to see how this situation in the present has it's roots in your past. Very often our partner or the person we are in conflict with has about only 10-20 percent, and some say 10-15 percent to do with what we are experiencing in the present. In conflict or when disappointment or anger arises ask yourself: "What was I really needing or expecting here?"
If you are experiencing anger and feel wronged get to the bottom of what you are really feeling not the sentiment that "You did me wrong; or you made a mistake; or how dare you treat me this way." Get to the hurt. For instance instead of saying "You are not treating me right, and you take advantage of me; Or, I'm not waiting for you; I'm going on with my life." Just say, first to yourself: "I'm hurt. My feelings are hurt."... It's so simple. If the time comes up and it feels right to express what you are really feeling just say it simply....quietly: "You hurt me. I love you. I like spending time with you. You're great and I guess I just missed you." Just keep it simple and to the truth; which is love.. The truth is always a version of love. The most authentic and most expanded expression of love is very simple... There are less defenses, barriers, walls whether in words or action...
The more inner love the more outer love in all it's forms is experienced and expressed.